Don’t let the title fool you!
As simple as it sounds, the jitters hit when you’re in the situation.
Socializing at nightlife venues like bars and clubs is pretty interesting when you think about it. The excitement of meeting new people, increasing your network, and wooing a beautiful woman feels downright amazing.
It does feel amazing in theory, but not so much when it comes to practice. The notion that a few rounds of drinks can ease the nerves is correct, but it’s equally possible that you take one shot too many and end up on the floor or making no sense whatsoever.
When it comes to approaching a girl at a bar, success is in the fine details. In this blog, we’ll explain these details and clear the mist around how to talk to a girl at a bar.
First thing’s first, and that’s to feel and look confident. Remember what they say about first impressions?
Humor is a great ice-breaker. It’s important that you’re sure of yourself; women prefer men who take it easy in the first meeting, so stop trying to impress her with every single line. Approach her confidently and look for common grounds to strike up a conversation.
The first thing a woman will notice is how you dress. This one’s almost a no-brainer, but since it’s so decisive in approaching women, it’s worth an honorable mention. So before you make your move, make sure that your hair isn’t all over the place, and your shoes are tidy.
If you’ve ever heard that ladies observe in great detail, you’ve heard it right. A single open button in your shirt can end things for you before it even starts.
Having said that, we don’t mean to take things over the top (no, leave that 3-piece suit at home). But a whiff of self-confidence and looking sharp will do the trick here.
Make a Confident Approach
Making that approach is a daunting task, especially if it’s a group that you have to intrude into. So the pro tip here again would be to rely on intellectual humor (ladies love that). And the name is one female you know of who isn’t impressed by a man who has the ability to make her girl gang laugh?
Walk up to her confidently and greet everyone in the group politely. Make sure to steal her attention with a decent smile and a warm feel. There are also chances that she has men in her group, which isn’t anything to be intimated of unless her love interest is a part of the gang too.
Understandably, this one could be tricky. But if you can impress her group in front of her, you’re almost there.
Embrace your Masculinity
We don’t mean flexing muscles here, just having that slightly arrogant look and a mysterious gaze. The ‘mystery man’ vibes tend to work amazingly well with ladies, so be silent when you’re listening to her and subtle when you’re answering back.
Social studies have confirmed that looking proud and sure accentuates your masculinity, and females tend to be more impressed with masculine features than cute ones.
But again, don’t go overboard. Show off that charming smile every now and then to make her feel comfortable and interested at the same time.
Keep your Calm
Even if you’re nervous as heck, don’t let her figure that out. Chances are, it’ll be the end of the conversation and the last thing you remember with that girl.
Don’t shoot questions at her and make it sound like an interview. Be calm and retrospective in your conversations. Show her that you care, but don’t try to know everything about her in one go. Give it time.
Now that you’ve mastered the conversations, learn to master your body language. You can’t sound calm and tap your foot incessantly, lest you want her to think that you’re a sociopath.
Maintain positive body language, and don’t use your hands too much. Keep them confidently across the table without leaning into it.
Check your Drinking Spree
You must have figured out by now that being calm and confident in every respect should be the priority if you want the conversation to turn into a relationship. And drinking too much is another red flag when you’re out there making your first impression.
Don’t drink too much; you may come across as nervous or blabber a few words here and there. Women prefer guys who can hold their drink (have you seen any 007 movies?), and that’s exactly what you should aim for. We suggest 2-3 drinks max.
These were tips on picking up a girl at a bar. These were just the basics of what to do and what not to do when approaching a girl at a bar.
In the end, the ball’s in your court, and the rest depends on your skills to spark a conversation and capture her intrigue.
But remember the gentleman’s code here and never cause discomfort or be disrespectful towards anyone you meet at a club. These fall under basic clubbing etiquette.
So make that move and make it a rendezvous to remember. We wish you the best of luck.